What’s Wrong With Your Sex Life?

What’s wrong with your sex life? The answer could be, “Nothing.”

If any person tries to judge their sex life by the myriad of sexual self help articles posted in almost any publication that is available in a month, the final conclusion has to be that there is something wrong. However, there is only something wrong if you believe there is something wrong.

Do you have a job or keep house? Do you have children in school and other activities, have extended family that you try to at least keep in touch with, have friends that you talk to and interact with on a regular basis? If you answer yes to all of those, there is something wrong with your sex life - you may not have enough time to have one.

If your complaints are minor, there are some things you can do to improve the situation.

• Take TV out of the bedroom. According to most doctor’s this will also help with your sleep.
• Get off your duff and loose the gut. This applies to both men and women, you will not only look better, you will have more energy (think about it, not too tired for sex). It will also be beneficial to your all over health. Good health according to almost all medical reports translates into increased libido. There is also the situation that unless you looked the same when you met your sexual partner as you do today, that somewhere, there is at least a little disappointment that you have let yourself slide downhill without a little struggle.
• Even if you sleep nude, occasionally adding a little black satin and lace, or red lace and sequins (you get the idea), can be a stimulant. And that doesn’t apply only to females. Have you looked at what’s available for males lately? Get a little creative.
• If you wanted to go out to dinner, you would make arrangements for child care. Find a way, once in a while, to have a kid’s night out, and a parent’s night in. Have your children sleep over at a friends, (don’t forget to reciprocate). If you really wanted to go to the casino you would find a way, put the same effort and time into your sex life.

If your problem is deeper than quick fixes. There are so many physical things that can affect your sex life, and even though many studies have been done on sexual problems, the answers are not always easily found and the treatment can be a lot of trial and error. Some of the things that can affect the desire for sexual activity as well as the activity itself include

• Low estrogen or testosterone levels
• Emotional or psychological problems
• Some medications
• Diabetes (in men)
• Prostrate problems (in men)
• Painful intercourse (in women)
• Pregnancy and childbirth
• Certain injuries.

A doctor or mental health professional should be consulted in determining what the problem is. Once the problem is determined, the treatment can be selected.

There are solutions for almost every kind of sexual problem. It isn’t always easy to find the one appropriate for the condition at hand, but with patience and perseverance, a solution can be found to reduce or cure the problem.